One great advantage of living in our time is that you can be whoever you want to be. It’s also one of the greatest ironies, since most decide to be just like everyone else. You can say that your influences, the media, and this converging world confuse you more than they bring clarity to who you should become. It may be really hard to be yourself when your perceptions are constantly being shaped by trends and influenced by what’s popular.
CONFORMING TO SURVIVE
Humans tend to conform. We discovered early on that it can help us survive. It’s like if you stand out so much, you risk exposing yourself to danger, pain or hurt. And so the self, the one that’s truly and uniquely you, may find it very difficult to come out. You fear judgement and rejection. You want safety. You’d want to feel secure. And so you conform. Some people have mastered the art of conforming so well, it’d make you wonder if they ever hate themselves for it. And, would they ever forgive themselves for giving up on the self that they can become?
Again, as in most things in life, it’s a trade-off between security and freedom.
GETTING THE COURAGE TO BE YOURSELF
But, is it really? Can’t you have the courage to be who you really are?
This talk by Bruce Cairnie, highlights three things that can give you courage to be yourself. He talks about self-worth, self-love and the ability to recognize a need for growth. These beautiful concepts will help you realize how in very simple ways, you can construct or maybe redeem yourself.
Self-worth comes from the fact that you are here. You breathe, you live, you are. You’re worthy, you’re enough.
And if you’ll only acknowledge those facts, then self-love will be easy on you. Self-love is recognizing your strengths, your accomplishments. It’s affirming the things that went well in your life, no matter how big or small they are. But it’s also about recognizing your weaknesses and imperfections, that you deserve the chance to change and grow.
You’re a work in progress. And you develop yourself in your own time, at your own pace, within the confines of an environment of your choice. If you’ve got self-love then you know, you got to give yourself the patience to become who you want to be, to let out that person who you truly wanted to become. To build up that courage to be yourself.